For parents of newborns – or those expecting one – congratulations! And start planning.

If you live in California, you’re lucky. To get time off to hang with your kid, you don’t even have to work for Yahoo (whose CEO Marissa Mayer just granted 16 weeks of paid leave for moms and eight weeks for dads).

When Amy Roach, 32, got pregnant, she says her company’s HR director told her she was eligible for 12 weeks of unpaid leave. That wasn’t true. But, it’s an easy mistake to make. Under the federal 1993 Family and Medical Leave Act, workers can take up to 12 weeks off of work to take care of a new baby or sick family member or to recover from an illness.

Roach ended up taking five months off, all paid. She made this happen after turning to expert Lauren Wallenstein.

Lauren Wallenstein, owner of Milk Your Benefits

Lauren Wallenstein, owner of Milk Your Benefits

Wallenstein runs Milk Your Benefits out of her home office in West LA. It’s her job to help expectant parents navigate the confusing world of California leaves of absence laws and regulations.

“My clients usually feel like they’re getting screwed in one way or another and they want to make sure that at the end of the day, they’re not,” said Wallenstein, who started her business in January 2011. “I want people to start pushing back. I want a revolution to start.”

Wallenstein says there is a fundamental conflict of interest between employees and businesses because businesses want their employees to come back to work quickly. But experts say the issue isn’t that simple, even for those whose job it is to understand all the laws and regulations.

“The confusion for HR reps is that there are a number of laws and regulations,” said Jay Sherman, Vice President of Human Resources at Life Care insurance company in Woodland Hills. “There’s pregnancy disability leave, family care and medical leave and paid family leave. There’s also coordination of pay in terms of sick pay vacation pay and pay from the Employment Development Department.

“There are a lot of pieces to the puzzle. They all fit together and knowing what each piece looks like and how they fit together is very difficult for a small company that has a small HR staff where the HR staff is involved in many, many things in addition to leaves of absence.”

When those puzzle pieces aren’t explained to expecting parents, Wallenstein says they get scared.

“They’re scared of losing their health insurance. They’re scared of how their relationships might change with their co-workers and their bosses, how their job future might be impacted by this. It’s not as simple as ‘Oh, I’m having a baby and I’ll be back soon.’ It’s a complicated issue.” Wallenstein said.

But, with the correct information, Sherman said that the pregnancy disability leave and family care leave in California make up the best and most generous system in this country.

“In a company with 50 or more employees, a woman can take up to seven months off work,” Sherman said. “She gets her health benefits in place, subsidized to the same degree as if she were working and gets to come back to her same job. Fathers in California can take up to six weeks of Paid Family Leave. This is where somebody wants to be if they’re going to have a child and they work.”

Add to the plate a new regulation under Obamacare about pumping at work: An employer with more than 50 employees has to provide a private space to nursing mothers to pump breastmilk during the workday. Bathrooms don’t count. California has actually had similar laws on the books for years. A fact that mother Amy Roach says helped ease her transition back to work.

“I think it benefits women and companies in the long run when you’re allowing significant amount of time off,” Roach said. “Cause when I came back, I was ready to come back.”

img_2993_ppLauren Whaley is a reporter with California HealthCare Foundation’s Center for Health Reporting, a project of the USC Annenberg School for Communication & Journalism.

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